• Dear Hoboken Girl: Where Can I Make {Girl} Friends?

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    HobokenGirl.com gets so many questions about things around town, so sometimes it’s necessary to write about them on the blog — since more than one person most likely has the same question {plus, who doesn’t love receiving “mail?”}. We always make an effort to respond to each and every one of you – but sometimes we miss one or two. Apologies if that is so!

    That being said, it’s fun to help in any way, since I’ve dedicated a lot of time to learning all about Hoboken {and life here}, so your Qs about Hoboken are welcome! I’m not an expert in any of the above per se, but I will always give it my best shot or direct you to someone who can help. Though I don’t really go by “Hoboken Girl,” it’s what everyone writes when they email me. We’ll just call this section “Dear Hoboken Girl,” to be simple. Here goes:

    Dear Hoboken Girl, 

    I just moved here three weeks ago from California and really would like to get out and make some girlfriends. I appreciate your page any suggestions on ways to meet people? I have been just walking around Hoboken smiling and trying to make connections.

    Thanks a bunch for your help!

    ~ West Coast Transplant

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    Dear West Coast Transplant,

    Hoboken can be a scary place when you don’t know many people at first — many people have mini-networks from college and high school in and around NJ that are hard to break into. Or, perhaps you’ve had a big group of friends and they’ve slowly migrated out of Hoboken to the burbs. Luckily, with the plethora of fun activities and exciting events, there are a ton of ways to meet some new friends. Here are my faves:

    1. Join a Fitness Class

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    • If you like yoga, every Tuesday night at 7:00PM there is free yoga at Pier A Park.
    • If you enjoy running, you’ll always catch joggers running along the piers. It’s a good area to be around people with similar interests.
    • Local Barre also has some great core fitness classes, and WiO has some fun spinning and othehigh-intensityty workouts — tons of ladies at both locations!
    • Elysianettes is a great running club that meets and runs together. Perfect way to make some new friends!
    • Editor’s Note: Yoga is great, but you have to be very quiet, aka it’s hard to chat it up during class. Most likely classes where it’s okay to laugh and talk are a better way to make a good friend connection. But you never know — so of course had to list it!

    2. Join Hoboken Lean In — a circle of professional women from Hoboken and the surrounding area. They support the improvement of women in the workplace and would be a great group to get involved in.

    3. Get a Mani/PediI have met some very nice strangers in the pedi chairs at a nail salon {or by the drying area}. Just make sure they are not trying to majorly relax and recharge, or they may end up annoyed.

    4. Find a bar you like and park it there. You never know who you’ll meet.

    5. Get a Dog. It’s a ton of work…so may not be for the best {you may want to ‘borrow’ a friends’ dog}, but I have met a ton 0f new friends recently on “walks” for Pierre…granted I usually know the dog’s name not the owner’s name as well, but still, totally fun and a great way to strike up a convo.

    6. Come to Hoboken Girl Socials! We have socials for ladies {and sometimes gents} throughout the year — and it’s a great way to meet girl friends. Some people come with friends, others come solo — and either way it’s lots of fun 🙂 Our last two were at Pinot’s Palette, and they were a blast.

    7. Join a Meetup Group for an interest of yours. There are a lot of groups on Meetup.com such as photography, blogging, fashion, makeup artistry, etc. The world is your oyster, depending on your interest.

    8. Take a class you wouldn’t normally take. Maybe it’s cooking, maybe it’s sewing, maybe it’s wine tasting, maybe it’s meditation — the sky is the limit. Here’s a list of 10 fun classes you *must* try in Hoboken.

    9. Go to Jersey CityLet’s face it: the world is bigger than our little bubble of Hoboken. Get out of your comfort zone, head to

    10. Our Events Guide posts every week has the best of Hoboken events going on every weekend and during the week – some of which are great for making new friends.

    11. Zog Sports. If you have any athletic ability, it’s the perfect outlet. If you don’t, it’s the perfect way to make new friends.

    12. Hoboken Ski Club is a great way to meet local skiers and snowboarders {and make some gal pals} who love to have fun on the slopes.

    13. Check out Hoboken Girl Helps. This group shares volunteer opportunities for events, fundraisers, and non-profits in Hudson County. Volunteering is always a positive way to get engaged in the community and make a difference.

    Regardless of how you try to make new friends, take advantage of every opportunity and follow up with people you meet {if you like them!}. It can be so easy to get into a rut (or routine) of feeling like you don’t have many friends in the area and just come home and watch tv + order takeout. Say hi to your neighbors, strike up a convo with a dog’s owner, chat with your local restaurant waitress…you never know where you’ll make a new connection.

    Hope that helps. Hoboken girls weigh — how did you meet new people when you first moved to town?

    To read the last Dear Hoboken Girl reader Q&A, click here.

    Have a question for us? Email hello@hobokengirl.com and we’ll try to answer ASAP 🙂


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    Jen is the founder and Editor-in-Chief of Hoboken Girl. She started the site to discover and share the wealth of things happening in Hudson County. Her roots in the area extend to her maternal grandparents, who owned two textile factories in Weehawken and North Bergen. When not planning the next Hoboken Girl event/volunteer project or editing her life away, she can usually be found shopping at local boutiques, eating an Insta-worthy meal, walking her French bulldog + rescue pup, or watching the latest murder doc on Netflix with her husband.


    13 comments

    • Urban Girl Squad is also a great place to meet people! I joined when I first moved to hoboken and am now a member of their staff. While most of the events are in NYC, I’ve met plenty of girls from the ‘boken as well. We do all sorts of fun things – makeup nights, wine tastings, cooking classes, fitness classes- the list goes on. Feel free to email me about any events coming up- I’m happy to go with you and introduce you to people. 🙂 laurenc@urbangirlsquad.com

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    • I met my core group of friends through ZogSports. You can sign up as an individual and be placed on a team. Also, there are post-game happy hours, which is a great place to meet other teams too!

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    • Similar to Laura, I met all my girls all through ZogSports! There are plenty of options from Kickball to Football to Corn Hole so whatever your athletic ability (or non ability) you will quickly meet plenty of ladies

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    • I LOVE the “Get a dog one” .
      It is so true! Even if I do not have one, we can still talk to the owner…. and hopefully we won’t end up with a fictitious dog name ;)).

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    • I met a few awesome girls through a yoga/hiking retreat organized by Brooklyn Outfitters. Devotion Yoga’s Jocelyn goes on these hikes so a lot of local girls here about it in her class and come along. I’ve been twice and both times were fun and refreshing. The people going are always very nice.

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    • I started talking to the nice girl next to me on the path train one morning on the ride into work. She’s now a great friend!!!

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    • I agree with some of the other girls – ZogSports all the way!! I didn’t know anyone when I moved to Hoboken and now have a really great group of friends that I got out with all the time. We go to each others houses, go out to eat and even started a book club! I recommend kickball because the teams are so much bigger but Volleyball and Basketball are a ton of fun, too!

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    • Hoboken mermaids on Meetup is a good way of meeting girls and having events to attend ! The wine and paint nights are always a fun way to break the ice with new friends anddd of course Instagram! I’ve met soooo many friends including my two best hoboken girls through Instagram – through the hoboken hashtag or location settings. Sounds creepy but I promise it isn’t ! They saw I was new in town and reached out and vice versa. Alsooooo hoboken girl reposting lots of photos I posted helped navigate new followers and new friends too ! Yay.

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    • Dear HobokenGirl,

      I’m new in Edgewater, don’t really know anyone here, is hard to meet people, I go to cafes and walk around and try to connect, but people are just so into their divices, that it seems impossible to make friends..

      Any suggestions will be truly appreciated, I’m in my late 40’s, so not youngsters

      Thanks

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    • Admiring the hard work you put into your blog and detailed information you present.
      It’s good to come across a blog every once in a while
      that isn’t the same old rehashed information. Great read!

      I’ve bookmarked your site and I’m adding your RSS feeds to my Google account.

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