The Hoboken Bride: 9 Tips on Save the Dates {and Where to Have Them Made}

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It’s been a little while since the Hoboken Bride has surfaced in full force, but that’s only because being in the throws of wedding planning {less than 6 months to go!} is exciting but can take up a lot of spare time that would normally be used to blog about it! Since it’s around 6 months til the wedding, time to talk about STDs. No, not chlamydia. Save the Dates, silly! The only time saying “I love your STD” is acceptable, mind you.

Here are some tips I have learned from first-hand experience about save the dates:

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1. Make your guest list first.

There’s nothing worse than sending out save the dates and then realizing you are not going to have room to fit someone you sent a save the date. Newsflash: you have to invite them anyway. Reallllly bad karma not to. So if you have anyone that you’re on the fence about, don’t send a save the date {but really, plan ahead so you don’t have a B list, it’s tacky}.

READ: 9 Tips for Creating Your Wedding Guest List

 

2. Send your save the dates out about 6 months before the wedding.

They should go out about 6 months before the wedding, maybe earlier if you’re having a destination wedding. Oops, I sent mine out about 10 months before. Whateva. It’s totally up to you — I just was off from my job in the summer and had time to create it and send it. Rules are meant to be broken!

 

3. Pinterest is your BFF.

Try to plan out a few things about your wedding before you send out save the dates — things like your dress, your bridesmaid dresses, your theme {if you have one}, and your colors. That way, it will give you somewhat of a direction or way coordinate with your overall color scheme or theme of the wedding — if you’re into that sort of thing. 

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4. Gather addresses on Postable.com

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This is a LIFESAVER of a website that I found early on in planning. Literally you can send out a customized link to all of your friends/family to fill out their names/birthdays/addresses/etc and then it stores it for you…FREE! This is amazing whether or not you’re getting married just to collect addresses in general {I mean really, who has a handwritten address book any more?}.

You can also send out thank you cards that look “handwritten” but you actually type and send from your computer for a small fee, as well as exporting all of your addresses to a txt or excel sheet or word doc for your calligrapher. SUCH an amazing find for any bride. PS: I’ll be keeping this list for holiday cards, etc. It stays on the site passworded forever; all you have to do is login!

5. Use other mediums to gather addresses as well.

Facebook messenger, text messages, and phone calls are perfectly fine to grab addresses of cousins and other people you’re inviting that you may not have contact info for. Once you get them, just plug them into Postable!

 

6. Make sure you ask people with significant others that you’re definitely inviting for their names.

There’s nothing ruder than not including a boyfriend or girlfriend of several years and merely writing “and Guest” on the invite or save the date because you forgot to ask how to spell their name! It takes two minutes, and it is very good etiquette.

 

7. Make your wedding website before you send out save the dates.

That way you don’t have to worry about people asking you questions directly — just put all of the info on your wedding website and include the URL on your save the date! I created ours on Wix, but the Knot offers one too which is easy to use {just drag and drop}. We even bought the domain of our Instagram hashtag to mask the site– but that’s because we’re weird and I’m a social media/tech nerd 🙂

8. Don’t stress about them though, seriously.

Save the dates are just that — a reminder to save the date. Think about it — besides being on someone’s fridge or in their junk drawer, that’s really the only place they will be. This e-card was really helpful in making me realize that most people feel this way and to take it down a notch:

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Really though. As a serial wedding guest and now bride-to-be, it’s totally true!

9. Hire a graphic designer if you are a perfectionist.

And try not to drive them crazy {eek!}. We hired one, and it was the best money spent — I love our save the dates. I sent her some pinterest inspiration, and within a week and some rounds of edits we had a beautiful, customized save the date! It’s also great because sites like minted, wedding paper divas, and tiny prints are great — but will always have their branding on the back {whereas a graphic designer can exclude their branding}.

 

A sneak peak of our Save the Dates created by the amazing Brittany of Life of the Party {Design & Details}:

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Our “STD.” Went for a rustic-chic look mixed with type-written fonts which goes with our aesthetic for the actual wedding. Brittany hit it out of the park!

She even custom-designed our “Save the Date” Stamp for us:

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Brittany was wonderful — patient, responsive, flexible, and creative. She also does envelope design and printing so you don’t have to worry about doing that yourself or hiring a calligrapher if you don’t want to. We’re using her for our invites and possibly a few other printed things on the big day as well!  Check out more of her work on her FB page or email her at lifeofthepartydd@gmail.com for any graphic design/invite inquiries {hope you don’t mind me shouting you out, girl!}.

Another amazing local graphic designer to check out, Love Letters Studio:

Corinne of Love Letters Studios — located in Hoboken, NJ! I have personally met with Corinne and know of many Hoboken brides that have used her – she is amazing! She can make you and your partner your own logo and envelope stamps as well as do a ton of custom designs for your save the dates and actual wedding invites/decor. Here are a few samples of her work:

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NYC wedding invite – love the “apple” stamp, so cute.

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SUCH a cute save the date for a St. Lucia destination wedding!

 

PS: If you contact & book Corinne during the month of February to do your invites or save the dates, receive 15% off your customized Save the Dates or Invites if you mention “Hoboken Girl!” Email her at corinne@lovelettersstudio.com.

READ: Hoboken Girl’s February Deals Guide!

Another spot to check out in Hoboken: Yes I Do on 3rd and Washington.

Happy Planning, brides!

Feel free to email me with any wedding questions or to have your local Hudson County Wedding featured:

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Jen is the founder and Editor-in-Chief of HobokenGirl.com. With deep entrepreneurial roots in Hudson County — as her grandparents owned textile businesses on Tonnelle Ave in North Bergen dating back to the 50s — she started the site as a Hoboken resident to discover the amazing things happening in the area. When not planning the next Hoboken Girl event or #HobokenGirlHelps volunteer project, she can usually be found shopping at local boutiques, eating an Insta-worthy meal, walking her two pups, or watching Bravo TV and ordering takeout with her husband.